Lead with your heart.

My spiritual guru Abraham-Hicks says that, “We cannot focus upon the weaknesses of one another and evoke strengths.”  You cannot focus upon the negative qualities or the things that you think others are doing wrong, and expect them to change.  The way to evoke positive change in others is by changing your perception of them.  Start focusing on their positive aspects and the qualities you want to see in them and you will draw them out.  There is always a way for both people to win.  You might not see it, but the universe is omnipotent and can orchestrate everything beautifully and beyond what you can imagine.

What’s more important to you, being right or being happy?  Often, we automatically assume that the other person is against us if they don’t agree with us, but no two people have the same perspective.  We all have a different point of view because of our unique past experiences and beliefs.  It’s a waste of time to try to make others agree with you.  Allow yourself to accept that they really do see things differently and there isn’t a right or wrong, there is only your perspective of what’s right or wrong or good or bad.  

Recognize that when others strike out or cause pain within you, it’s likely because they’re not feeling good about themselves.  And often when you strike out at another person it’s because you aren’t feeling good about yourself.  Everyone is responsible for their own anger or hurt.  They may have acted as a catalyst, but it’s always your choice in how you react and handle the situation.  And it’s also your choice as to whether or not you hold onto grudges and thoughts that cause you pain.  Holding onto resentment only hurts you.  

Forgiveness is for you, it’s for giving yourself peace of mind.  Forgive and let go of your anger or hurt by going to your heart for answers.  Imagine you are embracing the person you need to forgive with your whole heart.  Feel your heart growing bigger and surrounding them with love and forgiveness.  Hold your heart open and focus your loving energy on them.  

When you go to your heart for answers, you open the doors for a new solution to appear.  Let go and trust that whatever needs to be resolved will be.  Don’t allow your ego to continue to bring you painful unwanted memories from the past that hold you back from moving forward.  The past is the past.  The present moment is what matters.   

Affirmations to help you resolve problems or conflicts:

"I am always guided to a higher solution, and as I help others win, I win as well."

"I am listening to the wisdom of my heart.  My heart knows the answers."

“I am embodying the qualities that I wish to see in others which makes me a strong positive influence.”

“I am releasing the past and approaching all situations from a place of love and compassion."

In love and light,

Sydney

Allow yourself to receive.

Life gives birth to desire.  It is our wanting that creates expansion.  We are here to focus our energy toward something.  Being able to create through thought, through our imagination, is a gift.  People die when they no longer want anything.  Without a reason to create, we lose our desire to keep living.  Life would not continue to evolve and new things would no longer be created without desire.  It is our desire for something better that creates new ways of doing things, traveling, and communicating with each other.  Without wanting, we wouldn’t have made the advances in technology that we’ve made. 

When I use the word “want”, I am referring to a desire that I want to focus upon so that source energy can flow through me and bring it into my experience.  For some people, the word “want” has a negative connotation because they associate it with a feeling of discomfort.  They want but don’t believe they can attain their desire, and therefore it’s an uncomfortable yearning.  Some of us may remember wanting something in the past that we didn’t end up getting, and so we are discouraged immediately.  We may try to tell ourselves that we don’t really want it, but we can’t help wanting something.  It’s our fear that we won’t get what we want that makes wanting feel like too great of a risk.

It’s not the wanting that's the problem.  The problem lies in our getting upset that we don’t have it, and becoming so attached to our desire that we constantly worry we won’t get it, that we end up holding ourselves apart from it.  Our fear can be so strong, because we want it so badly, that we don’t allow it to manifest.  If we would just enjoy the process of wanting something, knowing that the universe heard our wish, we would get what we want.  Everything you want can and will be yours if you will relax and know that it’s coming instead of constantly worrying it won’t.  Do not use your immediate reality to tell you whether or not it is coming.  Trust and use your imagination to imagine you already have what you want.  

Be satisfied where you are now and eager for more.  Appreciating where you are and what you’ve learned, while at the same time excitedly awaiting what’s coming next, puts you in the perfect place of allowing what you want to come.  Be specific but also general by not worrying too much about the details.  Think about what you want and why you want it.  Don’t worry about how, where, and when it’s going to come because that creates resistance and unease within you.  Hold onto the general feeling of what you want and trust that the universe is bringing it to you in the best possible way.

Affirmations for allowing what you want to come:

“I am enjoying the process of figuring out what I like and what I don’t like because it's helping me to create exactly what I want.”

“I am attracting my desires to me and I am excited when the evidence of their manifestation shows itself to me.” 

“I am perfect where I am and I am moving toward something that will satisfy me even more.”

“I am right on track and everything is unfolding perfectly for me at the right time."

In love and light,

Sydney

Good vibrations.

We live in a vibrational universe, and the Law of Attraction causes you to attract what you give out.  You rendevouz with circumstances and people who are sending out the same vibration as you.  How do you know what vibrational level you’re on?  When you are feeling good, you’re vibrating at a higher level then you are when you’re feeling bad.  Why is it important to raise our vibrational energy?  Because feeling good attracts more good and allows you to open the doors to receiving all that you are wanting.  When you feel bad, you are causing resistance and making it difficult for your desires to manifest into your experience.  

The universe does not respond to your words or actions, it responds to your vibration.  You don’t have to speak any words about what you want.  The universe will still know exactly what you are wanting through your feelings.  And it will deliver…but you won’t attain it in your reality until you become a vibrational match to your desires.  That means, you have to find a way to feel good and feel that what you desire is already coming into your experience.  You’ve got to stop thinking about what you don’t want, what's bothering you, or why you don’t have what you want.  Instead, think only about what you want, what you like, and what it will feel like to have what you desire.  Then, what you want can come because that’s what you’re focused upon, and therefore you’re a vibrational match to it.  Don’t worry about what is “true” now because the “truth” will shift when you shift your vibration.

Your vibration will naturally rise as you release resistance.  Breathing releases resistance.  Yoga releases resistance.  Any form of relaxation will release resistance because it slows down your thoughts and allows you to stop thinking about whatever might be bothering you for a little while.  You’re in the moment and not worrying about the future or thinking about the past.  It’s worrying and criticizing yourself and others that causes you to create resistance and lowers your vibration.

Words can raise your vibration.  Saying positive words to yourself helps to put your mind in a more positive state, raises your energy, and shifts your thoughts to a higher level.  Choose words that feel good as you say them, and say them over and over.  Words like love, clarity, joy, prosperity, ease, rejuvenation, relaxation, allow, abundance, harmony, vitality have an uplifting affect. 

So...raising your vibration is quite simple.  Feel good.  Say positive, uplifting words to yourself.  Look for things around you to appreciate.  Focus on all the good things in your life.  Notice the beauty in nature.  Breathe.  Keep your mind focused on what you want, not on what you don’t (yet) have.  And let it come to you!

Affirmations for raising your vibrational energy:

“I am releasing resistance and allowing my vibration to naturally rise so that I am vibrating on a higher level.”

“I am focusing only on what I want and what I like so that I attract only what I desire into my experience.”

“I am enjoying attracting people, circumstances, and events that are also on a high vibrational level.”

“I love understanding that I live in a vibrational universe and that I have complete control over my point of attraction."

In love and light,

Sydney

Be the boss of your own mind.

Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you'll start having positive results.” -Willie Nelson

Taking care of your mental state is just as important as caring for your physical state.  Many of us are so picky about the food we eat, the clothes we wear, the cars we drive, even the people we date, but how picky are you about the thoughts you choose to entertain?  It might not seem like it most of the time, but we have complete control over our minds and what we choose to think about.  

Thoughts are magnetic in that they attract similar thoughts.  When you’re in a positive state of mind and thinking good feeling thoughts, it’s easier to draw more positive, higher level thoughts into your mind.  But when you’re focused upon unhappy, negative thoughts, you will likely attract more of the same and continue on a downward spiral.

Your inner dialogue is important.  The way you speak to yourself and the thoughts you choose determine the events, people, and objects your attract.  Learning to control your inner dialogue is about making your mind obey you rather than control you.  Most of us are sloppy with our thinking and allow random or unwanted thoughts to percolate within our mind, thus causing us to feel like we are at the mercy of whatever makes its way into our psyche.  

You can learn to rule your mind and control which thoughts you consciously allow to stay in your mind.  The way to control your thoughts is to pay attention to your feelings.  Observe your thoughts and your words to yourself and others.  Notice how they make you feel.  Sense that your thoughts are not who you are, but are often just internal chatter and triggered by things going on around you.  Learning to control your inner dialogue takes practice, but the more you practice the better you get.  You can train your mind to think more positively by turning away negative thoughts, saying no to them as they come up, and instead reaching for better feeling thoughts.  Practice choosing more positive, higher thoughts and words.  

You can learn to refrain from thinking about things that are not serving you.  Notice when you’re not feeling good and then notice what you’re thinking about or telling yourself.  Choose to see the good in situations and the positive aspects in people, instead of noticing only what is missing or wrong.  Alter your thoughts and you will alter your experiences.  

By watching your inner dialogue, being kinder to yourself, forgiving yourself for your mistakes and viewing them instead as learning experiences, you can begin to change your thinking.  You can shift your thoughts and open your mind to higher level thinking.  

Affirmations for higher level thinking:

“I am aware of my thoughts and the way that I speak to myself and about myself to others."

“I am easily shifting my thoughts so that I am often in a state of joy and appreciation for my life.”

“I am enjoying taking control of my mind, my thoughts, and my life experience.”

“I am choosing to see the good in situations and positive aspects in others.”

In love and light,

Sydney

Set yourself free.

“Freedom is not absence of commitment, but the ability to choose and commit myself 

to – what is best for me.”  -Paulo Coelho

There is nothing more wonderful or important in life than freedom.  Not just physical freedom, but freedom of the mind.  I say this because you can be physically free, but you can’t experience true freedom if you are bound by limiting beliefs and the opinions of others.  Freedom comes when you acknowledge that you have the right to choose your thoughts and to change your perspective in every moment.  

Freedom is the release of limitations.  Many of us put limitations on ourselves all the time without even realizing we’re doing it.  Allow yourself to see that we really do have free will because we have the ability to choose our thoughts.  You are free to decide what you want to imagine and dream about.  You get to choose how you view your life.  See it the way you want it to be, not the way other people tell you to see it.  Stop chaining yourself to the opinions and beliefs others have of you.  Choose for yourself which beliefs you will hold onto and which ones you will release.

Freedom is not about avoiding all responsibilities.  It’s about knowing what is important to you and choosing what to focus upon.  Freedom is listening to your intuition about what is right for you and making decisions based on how you feel.  Only you can know what is right or wrong for you.  Trust that you are making the right decisions and resist the urge to constantly second guess yourself.  Making a decision and believing in your choice is freeing and empowering.

Nobody can control your thoughts but you.  Set yourself free by taking control of your mind and paying attention to how you feel.  Decide that you want to feel good and then commit to choosing thoughts and beliefs that make you feel good.  You always have a choice.

Affirmations for creating feelings of freedom and expansion:

“I am making the right decisions for my highest and greatest good.  I am confident in the choices that I make.”

“I am free to see myself the way I want to.  I see myself as a strong and powerful creator.”

“I am freeing myself of the beliefs and opinions of others.  I am free to live my life the way that I want."

“I am happy to be alive and free.”

In love and light,

Sydney

Expect the best. Period.

“Doubt is a virus that attacks our self-esteem, productivity and confidence.  Faith that you and your life are perfectly unfolding is the strongest vaccine.” -Sean Stephenson 

Trust is expecting the best to happen, believing in your ability to create what you want, and knowing that you deserve to have it.  Trust is the link between your mental world and your physical world.  Realize that your dreams are already real on the mental plane, they are just waiting for the perfect time to appear in your physical reality.  

Hope is wanting something, but not really believing that it will come.  It’s doubting yourself and your power.  There is a sense of fear and a lack of trust that things will work out.  It’s your fear and thoughts of your desires not manifesting that keep them from becoming your physical reality.  

I thoroughly dislike the saying, “Hope for the best, but plan for the worst.”  There is no trust in that statement.  There is pessimism and a belief that things don’t usually work out in your favor.  That the universe is somehow against you.  It is your choice to see things that way.  If you believe it is so, than it is so.  If you believe the universe has your back and that everything is working out for your highest good, than that is the reality you will experience.  

I think where many of us get caught up is the timing.  We think that because what we want hasn’t manifested right away or by a certain point in our lives, that things aren’t working out for us and the universe is failing us somehow.  We think what we really want isn’t coming coming, so we settle for something we don’t really want because it’s better than nothing.  

Slow down.  Enjoy the steps along the way.  See the bigger picture.

Everything you want is coming, but it’s coming at the perfect time.  It may take longer than you expect because you may still be developing in some areas of your life.  Trust that the time delay is actually right on track and is enabling you to be fully ready when your desire does manifest.  Trust in the intelligence of the universe.  Trust your higher self to bring you the right things at the right time.  Tell yourself, “All is coming."

Affirmations for building a sense of trust:

“I trust that everything comes at the perfect time and in the perfect way.”

“I trust in my ever increasing ability to create all that I need and want in my life.”

“I am ready and open to receive all that I ask for, and I know that it is on its way to me now.”

“I am allowing everything in my life to unfold perfectly."

In love and light,

Sydney

You are the one who determines your worth.

Buddha said, “You must love yourself before you love another.  You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire Universe, deserve your love and affection.”  If you don’t love and appreciate yourself, how can you expect anyone else to?  We are so loving and accepting of the people in our lives that we care about, but most of us don’t extend that same love and acceptance to ourselves.  We criticize and beat ourselves up, focus on our perceived “flaws", and constantly feel like we need to “better" ourselves in some way.

I've spent most of my life feeling like I wasn’t good enough, focusing on my flaws, and constantly trying to fix what I thought was wrong with me.  I’m tired of beating myself up, of criticizing myself, of always needing to be better somehow.  Self-improvement is great and very important, but there needs to be a balance and an acknowledgment of your successes along the way.  Start appreciating yourself for who you are instead of thinking about who you wish you were or focusing on all the areas in which you feel you are lacking.  Thank yourself for all the good things you are doing instead of criticizing yourself for not doing enough.  Focus on your accomplishments rather than the things you feel you did wrong or haven’t done.  

Don’t allow anyone else to determine your worth.  If you feel like others are not treating you with love and respect, check your price tag.  Notice the value you are placing on yourself.  You may have subconsciously marked yourself down, because it's you who tells others what you're worth by showing them what you are willing to accept for your time and attention. Take yourself off the discount rack. If you don't value and respect yourself, no one else will either.

Do your best, but don't be so hard on yourself. Tell yourself, "I am doing the best I can with what I have in this moment. That is all I can ever expect of anyone, including me.”  The first step in loving yourself more is forgiving yourself for not being perfect.  It is our imperfections that make us unique and original.

Affirmations for increasing self love and acceptance: 

"I am valuing myself, my time, and my energy."  

"I am honoring myself and I know my worth.”

“I am valued and respected by others.”

“I love and accept myself for who I am right now.”

In love and light,

Sydney