Let go.

Recently I was at an art event and spoke with an artist who said some powerful words to me.  He told me to let go.  Even though I've said these words hundreds of times over the years in my yoga classes, I realize just how important they are in all areas of my life.  As we continue to move into this new year, it's time to really let go so that we can flow more freely through life.  

Let go of wanting to be someone different than who you are.  Stop comparing yourself and measuring yourself against other people and their accomplishments, and start appreciating your unique traits and preferences.  Let go of trying to become something that you think you are not, and realize that you already have that which you desire inside you.  You just have to allow it to unfold.  Stop holding yourself back by thinking that you aren't good enough.  You are.  You’re the only one stopping yourself from realizing your greatness and becoming the person you wish you could be. 

Let go of the past and anyone who isn’t treating you the way you to be treated.  Sometimes you just need to let go and accept the fact that they don’t care for you the way you care for them.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll figure out a way to bring you in.  If they aren’t doing that, let them go.  Release anger, guilt, shame, or any other negative emotions that may be weighing you down.  Allow yourself to let go of any grudges and forgive anyone you may have some resentment toward.  And most of all, forgive yourself for any mistakes you feel you may have made.  You have the choice to continue to feel bad or to give yourself the piece of mind you deserve.  

Let go of trying to control things that you cannot control.  In yoga, we are able to go deeper into the poses not by pushing or forcing our bodies into them, but simply by surrendering, letting go, and breathing.  Surrendering means not putting worry and fear into the process.  It means doing your part, and then relaxing and expecting that everything will work out for the best.  It is shifting your thinking to focusing on what you want to happen, and realizing that whatever happens is for your highest good.  Trust in the unfolding of your life.

Zen master Osho says, "Life is great, there is no way to finish it.  The more you enter into it, the vaster the possibilities that open their doors.  Yes, you can arrive at one peak and suddenly there is another.  It is non-ending”.   

In meditation you are constantly letting go.  You are constantly freeing yourself.  Each moment is a new opportunity to get out of the past and to get out of your head.  Close your eyes and begin to breathe.  As a thoughts arises, notice it and then try to release the thought from your mind.  Continue to do this, starting over each time your mind wanders, and bring it back to your breath.   

Focus your mind on these positive affirmations:

“I am letting go of anything that is not for my greater good and I ask it to release me."

“I am inviting and allowing good to come into my life."

"I am open and ready to grow, to expand, and to free myself from any limiting beliefs so that I may move more freely through life.”  

"I am free."

Love, 

Sydney

Gotta give it up.

Recently I was working on a painting of a sunset.  I envisioned myself creating something incredibly beautiful and moving.  But I ended up hating it, so I decided to give up trying to make it perfect.  I blended all the colors together, let go of the final outcome, and enjoyed the process of painting.  All of a sudden, I had created the sunset that I dreamed of.  It wasnt until I gave up the struggle, my fear of failure, and my attachment to the end result that I actually was able to achieve what I wanted. 

Give up the struggle, the doubt, and the negative self-talk.  Let go of the fear that you’re not good enough or that you might fail.  So what?  Ask yourself, what’s the worst thing that could happen?  Sometimes we have to let ourselves "go there" by briefly picturing the worst case scenario so that we can then release the fear and have the courage to move forward and follow our heart.  Just make sure that you don’t continue to picture unhappy outcomes since you are creating your life experiences through your thoughts and your mood. 

Give up your fear of failure and allow yourself to make mistakes.  We grow and expand by trying and learning from our successes as well as our failures.  It’s all part of the process of learning and defining who you are and what you want.  So give yourself a break.  It’s ok to fall down.  We didn’t learn to walk without falling down.  It is ok to fail.  If you’re too afraid to make a mistake you won’t take any risks.  And without risks you can’t grow.  If you don’t take any risks you may never have to fail, but you may have regret.    

Hold onto your dreams, but give up worrying about all of the tiny details.  Continue to hold the image and feeling of your desires in your mind and allow the universe to guide you by taking action when you feel inspired.  Instead of stressing yourself out by working overtime to figure everything out and do it all yourself, let the universe surprise you by delivering what you need at the perfect time.  Let go and allow some things to take care of themselves.  You can’t always control everything.  The only thing you can control is your attitude and your state of mind.  You can choose how to view your life and your experiences.  Say to yourself, “I trust that everything is always working out for me".

Let go of trying to control how everybody sees you.  People will see what they want to see.  Give up the idea that you need everyone to like you.  It’s exhausting.  You can control your actions, but you cannot control the reactions of others.  Just be the best person you can and stop worrying about how everyone else is perceiving you.

Give up past memories that don’t make you feel good.  Holding on to past mistakes or unhappy experiences stops us from moving forward.  Acknowledge any mistakes and what you’ve learned from them and then let them go.  When we experience suffering, we usually gain a clearer vision of what we want.  Turn your attention to where you're going and what you want, and let go of where you've been.  Take time to notice and appreciate what is going well presently in your life.  Choose to focus on the things that are important to you today, and move forward by concentrating on what you now want to be or do or have. 

Affirmations for letting in what you want and letting go of what you don't:

“I am letting go of anything that is not serving me and that I no longer need to be holding on to.”

“I am releasing myself from my past.  I am free and clear.”

“I am dissolving all barriers including my negative self-images and attitudes.”

"I am free to expand and enjoy the fullness of my life."

Love,

Sydney

The end or the beginning?

“Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.”--Eckhart Tolle

My mom always said that when things are falling apart they are coming together in a new way.  We are in a state of constant change.  Our environment, the cells of our bodies, our thoughts, and our lives are ever evolving.  Often, when we think something is ending it’s really the beginning of something else.  We can choose to focus on the ending part or we can direct our thoughts to what’s next, or what we’d like to be next….if we don’t yet know what that is.

Don’t let any place that you are standing in frighten you.  It’s just temporary and it’s just giving you an idea of what you’ve been doing with your energy or vibration -meaning how you’ve been feeling and what thoughts you’ve been thinking.  There’s always a way out if you will allow a solution to come to you by choosing a positive perspective rather than a lack perspective.  Stay positive by choosing thoughts that feel good such as, “Everything is coming at the perfect time and in perfect order.  Everything is unfolding perfectly.  I’m okay where I am and I’m eager for more.  It’s all happening for me at the right time.  Things are aways working out for me".

Change doesn’t have to be scary or traumatic.  It’s just our fear of the unknown that makes change seem scary.  Trust that there is a bigger picture.  You may not be able to see the whole thing yet, but it will reveal itself as you go.  If you will relax and go with the flow, you will see that things are always working out for you, for your highest good, and for the good of others around you too.  

If you find yourself in a situation where you feel like there are no options available to you or you’re feeling overwhelmed or trapped, then try this box exercise.  It’s a great way to improve your outlook by shifting your thoughts into a more positive place.

Box Exercise:  Imagine yourself inside of a dark box.  Now begin to imagine that you are creating some big, bright, beautiful windows that make you feel free and comfortable and expansive.  Notice there is light streaming in all around you.  Now imagine as many doors as you like so that you can easily come and go.  Open all the doors and leave them wide open so your box feels open and airy and full of light and opportunity.  The doors represent all the new opportunities that are now arising and allowing you to move in lots of different directions with as many paths as you choose.  There is not just one right path.  There are many right paths.  You are free and have new possibilities.  You no longer have to feel confined or trapped.  Say to yourself, "I am always expanding.  I’m okay where I am, and I'm so excited about what's coming.  I am open to new possibilities, and new opportunities are arising!” 

Abraham-Hicks says the best way to accomplish an improved environment is to focus upon the best things about where you currently are so that you move into a state of appreciation.  Make little mental lists of things you appreciate throughout the day so that you continue flowing good-feeling energy toward what is working in your life…which will then attract more positive things into your life.

In love and light,

Sydney

Reprogram yourself.

Happy New Year!

It’s the beginning of a new year.  We can reflect on our accomplishments, positive experiences, and what we learned, or we can remember unhappy events from the past year or years.  It certainly feels better to think of happy memories, but what if we can’t help thinking about painful past experiences?  Is it possible to erase unwanted beliefs or memories from our past?  Can we ever really forget?  

First, you can help it.  You always have a choice in what you think about.  When you catch yourself thinking a thought that isn’t making you feel good or remembering an unhappy event from your past, you can choose to switch your focus to something else.  Just because it happened and was a reality in your past, doesn’t mean you have to continue to think about it or give your attention to it now.  Experiences and relationships that we’ve had will stay with us, but they will fade away and not be such an active part of our emotional state unless we continue to think about them and reactivate them.  

The way to change or get rid of unwanted thoughts or beliefs is by deactivating them.  It is very hard to think about something upsetting and no longer feel negative emotion when you think about it.  When you try to seek out and get rid of negative beliefs or troubling memories from your past, you actually reactivate them because you begin thinking about them again.  You are unwittingly giving them more power through your attention to them.  Instead of revisiting your past to try and figure out where negative beliefs came from, it is better to simply be more aware of your state of mind in the now since your present moment is the one that matters.   Give your thoughts and attention to what you now want for yourself.  How you want to feel now.  How you want to live now.  How you want to think about yourself and your life now.  

We can’t completely erase unwanted beliefs or memories from our past, but we can reprogram ourselves by changing our perspective.  If a negative thought continues to come up again and again, then it may be a good idea to notice it and recognize where it might have come from.  You can look at it now from a different vantage point and change it by altering the way you now see it.  From your present moment of power, you have the ability to change an old belief or experience so that it is not so detrimental to your present state of mind.  But remember, the more you think about something, the more momentum it gains and therefore the more power it has.  The less you think about it, the less momentum and power it has. 

Don’t use unwanted things or memories from your past as a reason to be unhappy in the present.  Unless you’re remembering a happy memory or imagining a good feeling future scenario, you’re wasting your present moment of power and creating future experiences that match your feelings of unhappiness.  You’ve got to enjoy your present.  It’s a gift!

Affirmations for creating a more positive mindset:

“I am powerful in my now.  My present moment is what matters."

“I am living in the moment and enjoying my time here on this planet.”

“I am appreciating my growth, expansion, and life experiences.”

“I am releasing any thoughts of limited time.  I now see time purely as a platform for expansion and growth.”

In love and light,

Sydney