Your most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.

Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you will ever have because it affects all of your other relationships.  How you feel in your body affects how you feel about yourself.  When we don’t feel comfortable in our own skin, it can be detrimental to our lives because it can be very hard to relate to others in a healthy way.  Instead of noticing and appreciating positive qualities in the people we meet and interact with, we often judge, criticize and compare ourselves to them.  This does not feel good, but we only do it because we don’t feel good about ourselves.  

The good news is that our bodies are like living works of art in that they are moldable and constantly changing.  They will take on the shape that we assign to them based upon our actions, beliefs and thoughts about ourselves.  Respect your body by nourishing it with healthy food, happy thoughts, and daily movement.  Take time to relax and connect with yourself even if it’s just for a few minutes.  

When you start caring for and appreciating your body, it becomes better.  Appreciate the things you do like about yourself and your body.  We all have things about our appearance that we don’t like or wish we could change, but focusing on them in a negative way just makes them worse.  Instead, focus on the things you do like.  Start using your imagination to create a mental image of the way you want to look and feel.  Then continue to do the actions that support your goals and focus on the benefits they’re bringing you.

Respect your body by drinking lots of water and feeding it nutritious food.  Take the time to enjoy eating by giving it your full attention, and appreciate the people that grew your food and made it available to you.  Eat slowly and enjoy the way that it tastes and feels on your body.  We digest our food better when we enjoy eating it.  Tell yourself that you enjoy nourishing your body, and thank it for all that it does for you.

Take time to breathe, and slow down and rest when you are tired.  Some days we feel strong and energized and we can push ourselves more, and other times we feel exhausted and depleted.  When you feel like that, the best thing you can do is give yourself a break and take some time to breathe.  Our breath nourishes our bodies and calms our minds.  Don’t treat your body like an enemy, treat it like your best friend. 

Affirmations for cultivating a better relationship with yourself:

“I am loving and appreciating myself more and more.”

“I am becoming more attractive the more I love and appreciate myself."

“I am enjoying nourishing my body with nutritious food.”

“I am enjoying moving and strengthening my body, and I am strong and healthy.”



Bringing out the best.

"You have the option of making a good-feeling aspect of another person dominant in your Vibration or of making a bad-feeling aspect dominant, and whatever aspect you regularly choose will become the Vibrational basis of your relationship.  In simple terms, the experience that you have with others is about what you evoke from them.” —Abraham-Hicks 

Our relationships with others reflect the aspects that we give our attention to.  Set an intention for which qualities you want to bring out in your relationships with the people in your life.  Focus on the things you like, points of harmony, and commonalities.  Give very little attention to what you are not agreeing on and give more attention to things that you do agree on.  Abraham-Hicks says that the trouble with most relationships is that we pick out the one or two little things we don’t like and give those most of our attention.  The focusing of our attention on a subject causes the Law of Attraction to continue to attract more of whatever it is we’re giving our attention to.  

If you’re in a romantic relationship and you want it to be better in some way, think of all the positive aspects about the relationship and the other person.  When you catch yourself focusing on a negative aspect, switch your focus by reminding yourself of the things you like and appreciate about your relationship and your partner.  People are complex and everyone has a mix of both positive and negative qualities.  If you want to be happy in a relationship, then take notice of the positive aspects as often as you can.

If you’re looking for a romantic relationship, think about what you want in a relationship and why you want it.  Take notice of the positive qualities that you see in other people -whether it’s a date, a friend, or anyone you meet.  When we are looking for a relationship, we often point out the things we don’t like in the people we date.  It’s fine not to go out with that person again if you’re not interested, but it’s still important to focus on the things you enjoyed about them so that you’ll continue to attract people who embody the characteristics you like.  Speak about the qualities that you want in a partner and a relationship, not about the things you don’t want.  

Your relationship with yourself affects all of your other relationships.  If you want a loving relationship with another, you have to cultivate a loving relationship with yourself.  You cannot focus on the positive qualities in others when you’re criticizing yourself.  Let’s start spending more time noticing things we like instead of things we dislike about ourselves and others.  We get what we give our attention to whether we want it or not, so lets start giving it to the things we like!

Affirmations for bringing out the best in ourselves and others: 

“I am seeing and focusing on the positive qualities in others as well as in myself."

“I am noticing and appreciating the successes and accomplishments of others as well as my own."

“I am choosing to focus my attention on what I wish to experience in my relationships with others."

“I am aware that the experience that I have with others is about what I evoke from them."