Gotta give it up.

Recently I was working on a painting of a sunset.  I envisioned myself creating something incredibly beautiful and moving.  But I ended up hating it, so I decided to give up trying to make it perfect.  I blended all the colors together, let go of the final outcome, and enjoyed the process of painting.  All of a sudden, I had created the sunset that I dreamed of.  It wasnt until I gave up the struggle, my fear of failure, and my attachment to the end result that I actually was able to achieve what I wanted. 

Give up the struggle, the doubt, and the negative self-talk.  Let go of the fear that you’re not good enough or that you might fail.  So what?  Ask yourself, what’s the worst thing that could happen?  Sometimes we have to let ourselves "go there" by briefly picturing the worst case scenario so that we can then release the fear and have the courage to move forward and follow our heart.  Just make sure that you don’t continue to picture unhappy outcomes since you are creating your life experiences through your thoughts and your mood. 

Give up your fear of failure and allow yourself to make mistakes.  We grow and expand by trying and learning from our successes as well as our failures.  It’s all part of the process of learning and defining who you are and what you want.  So give yourself a break.  It’s ok to fall down.  We didn’t learn to walk without falling down.  It is ok to fail.  If you’re too afraid to make a mistake you won’t take any risks.  And without risks you can’t grow.  If you don’t take any risks you may never have to fail, but you may have regret.    

Hold onto your dreams, but give up worrying about all of the tiny details.  Continue to hold the image and feeling of your desires in your mind and allow the universe to guide you by taking action when you feel inspired.  Instead of stressing yourself out by working overtime to figure everything out and do it all yourself, let the universe surprise you by delivering what you need at the perfect time.  Let go and allow some things to take care of themselves.  You can’t always control everything.  The only thing you can control is your attitude and your state of mind.  You can choose how to view your life and your experiences.  Say to yourself, “I trust that everything is always working out for me".

Let go of trying to control how everybody sees you.  People will see what they want to see.  Give up the idea that you need everyone to like you.  It’s exhausting.  You can control your actions, but you cannot control the reactions of others.  Just be the best person you can and stop worrying about how everyone else is perceiving you.

Give up past memories that don’t make you feel good.  Holding on to past mistakes or unhappy experiences stops us from moving forward.  Acknowledge any mistakes and what you’ve learned from them and then let them go.  When we experience suffering, we usually gain a clearer vision of what we want.  Turn your attention to where you're going and what you want, and let go of where you've been.  Take time to notice and appreciate what is going well presently in your life.  Choose to focus on the things that are important to you today, and move forward by concentrating on what you now want to be or do or have. 

Affirmations for letting in what you want and letting go of what you don't:

“I am letting go of anything that is not serving me and that I no longer need to be holding on to.”

“I am releasing myself from my past.  I am free and clear.”

“I am dissolving all barriers including my negative self-images and attitudes.”

"I am free to expand and enjoy the fullness of my life."