"You have the option of making a good-feeling aspect of another person dominant in your Vibration or of making a bad-feeling aspect dominant, and whatever aspect you regularly choose will become the Vibrational basis of your relationship. In simple terms, the experience that you have with others is about what you evoke from them.” —Abraham-Hicks
Our relationships with others reflect the aspects that we give our attention to. Set an intention for which qualities you want to bring out in your relationships with the people in your life. Focus on the things you like, points of harmony, and commonalities. Give very little attention to what you are not agreeing on and give more attention to things that you do agree on. Abraham-Hicks says that the trouble with most relationships is that we pick out the one or two little things we don’t like and give those most of our attention. The focusing of our attention on a subject causes the Law of Attraction to continue to attract more of whatever it is we’re giving our attention to.
If you’re in a romantic relationship and you want it to be better in some way, think of all the positive aspects about the relationship and the other person. When you catch yourself focusing on a negative aspect, switch your focus by reminding yourself of the things you like and appreciate about your relationship and your partner. People are complex and everyone has a mix of both positive and negative qualities. If you want to be happy in a relationship, then take notice of the positive aspects as often as you can.
If you’re looking for a romantic relationship, think about what you want in a relationship and why you want it. Take notice of the positive qualities that you see in other people -whether it’s a date, a friend, or anyone you meet. When we are looking for a relationship, we often point out the things we don’t like in the people we date. It’s fine not to go out with that person again if you’re not interested, but it’s still important to focus on the things you enjoyed about them so that you’ll continue to attract people who embody the characteristics you like. Speak about the qualities that you want in a partner and a relationship, not about the things you don’t want.
Your relationship with yourself affects all of your other relationships. If you want a loving relationship with another, you have to cultivate a loving relationship with yourself. You cannot focus on the positive qualities in others when you’re criticizing yourself. Let’s start spending more time noticing things we like instead of things we dislike about ourselves and others. We get what we give our attention to whether we want it or not, so lets start giving it to the things we like!
Affirmations for bringing out the best in ourselves and others:
“I am seeing and focusing on the positive qualities in others as well as in myself."
“I am noticing and appreciating the successes and accomplishments of others as well as my own."
“I am choosing to focus my attention on what I wish to experience in my relationships with others."
“I am aware that the experience that I have with others is about what I evoke from them."