Buddha said, “You must love yourself before you love another. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire Universe, deserve your love and affection.” If you don’t love and appreciate yourself, how can you expect anyone else to? We are so loving and accepting of the people in our lives that we care about, but most of us don’t extend that same love and acceptance to ourselves. We criticize and beat ourselves up, focus on our perceived “flaws", and constantly feel like we need to “better" ourselves in some way.
I've spent most of my life feeling like I wasn’t good enough, focusing on my flaws, and constantly trying to fix what I thought was wrong with me. I’m tired of beating myself up, of criticizing myself, of always needing to be better somehow. Self-improvement is great and very important, but there needs to be a balance and an acknowledgment of your successes along the way. Start appreciating yourself for who you are instead of thinking about who you wish you were or focusing on all the areas in which you feel you are lacking. Thank yourself for all the good things you are doing instead of criticizing yourself for not doing enough. Focus on your accomplishments rather than the things you feel you did wrong or haven’t done.
Don’t allow anyone else to determine your worth. If you feel like others are not treating you with love and respect, check your price tag. Notice the value you are placing on yourself. You may have subconsciously marked yourself down, because it's you who tells others what you're worth by showing them what you are willing to accept for your time and attention. Take yourself off the discount rack. If you don't value and respect yourself, no one else will either.
Do your best, but don't be so hard on yourself. Tell yourself, "I am doing the best I can with what I have in this moment. That is all I can ever expect of anyone, including me.” The first step in loving yourself more is forgiving yourself for not being perfect. It is our imperfections that make us unique and original.
Affirmations for increasing self love and acceptance:
"I am valuing myself, my time, and my energy."
"I am honoring myself and I know my worth.”
“I am valued and respected by others.”
“I love and accept myself for who I am right now.”
In love and light,